A Desire For True Freedom

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Just yesterday I asked a question on the polls about Polygamy and it's viability as a lifestyle and just very much enjoyed reading the responses. I ask this simply because I am interested what we as a society think about lifestyles that "step out of the norm" and what we as a society view as appropriate limitations on our freedoms. I am a libertarian at heart, I believe in true freedom. I am not an anarchist, I do believe that there are definitely very obvious things that need to be protected by the law ( life, property, borders etc) but aside from that I belive in FREEDOM.

I ask myself often if we live in a truly free society or in the illusion of freedom? Are we truly free and is all of this technology making us more free or shackling us more to the "norms" and limitations of a repressive puritanical culture? I ask this in the wake of several media worthy situations where people's Facebook accounts were scrutinized for "immoral" activity in the employment application process. Companies are scrutinizing the activity that people post about and display on their social networking pages, even colleges are doing this. Is what you do in your free time not your own personal buisness? Honestly if a guy or girl gets drunk and naked at a bar is that not their own buisness? What exactly is wrong with that and why would it or should it limit a person's employability or collegiate admission status? People should be judged by their professional and or academic merits only. We do after all have lives, desires and emotions outside of work and school. I like to think that we work to live not live to work. I like to think that we suffer through the banality of 9-5 hell to subsidize out extra curricular activity be they quilting, model trains, painting, or even exhibitionsim and a total party lifestyle. What we do in our free time is OUR BUISNESS not some school's or some company's. The way things have been popping up it seems that in those few free hours away from the job we are still "working" because we are not allowed to be ourselves. Selling our true selves for a meager paycheck? Sorry not my idea of freedom.

A life without scrutiny is a life of true freedom. The goal of our "free" society should be to help each other prosper in our journey of life and not to limit each other with outdated social morality. The Soviets tried that whole "morality" thing and it backfired in 1991 leaving a vacum of insane capitalism and debauchery in it's wake. We love to claim to be a nation of "individualists" but in reality that "individualism" is still dictated and controlled by certain oppresive ideas. Here in California the majority of the state voted against Gay Marriage. How is that right? Why are we as a government allowing people to vote away the rights of other human beings to simply be happy and celebrate their union? This is something voted on in 2008, not 1887.

The general public voting on who we can or cannot love and spend the rest of our lives with? The year that the USA elected the first bi-racial President, the supposedly "liberal" state of California voted away the right of a certain group of society to be happy, celebrate their love, and have the freedom to live life like everyone else. We are a weird nation when it comes to sex and gender. After the Civil War we quickly allowed former slaves to vote, provided of course they were males. People who were previously owned and treated like cattle were allowed the vote but women of any race did not get the vote for 60 more years. Then just 3 years ago we as a state voted away the marriage rights of a whole group of people in society. If it comes to God Guns and Guts we will vote support anything but if it comes to women, sex, or an orientation outside the biblical norm we will squash, mutilate and destroy until everyone shuts up and keeps pretending that everything is cute, white and fuzzy. Denial, not just a river in Egypt but the backbone of our social structure.

So what about polygamy? What does that weird, bespectacled French chick think? In all honesty I support anything that is consensual and does not force anything or anyone into anything they dont want. i think when it comes to things like this the government and the church needs to butt out and allow us to do what we want and who we want to do it with provided all parties are of legal age and in agreement. Personally I find polygamy to be viable and completely fine provided all parties agree and  are equal. My husband and I are in a position where we elected to not have kids. I have stated this many times here. We are more oriented to a lifestyle that allows us freedom to travel, explore, see the world and be more mobile. Many times we have talked about the idea of finding another likeminded girl to join us in our adventures and our life. I personally would be completely open to that and see nothing wrong with it. Marriage rights in such a situation would only benefit our hypothetical life by offering security on many levels. Of course I dont believe in the Mormon style of polygamy where the husband is married to the women but they are not bound legally to each other by anything. I feel a triangle sort of arrangement would work for me where I had a romantic and legal bond with the other girl, true equality at work. Definitely not for everyone but definitely something for people that like it but would be VERY afraid to admt it publicly, why? Because we are far from living in a truly free society that would grant us as people the freedom to decide what is morally and romantically best for ourselves.

True freedom would be a society where everyone butts out of everyone elses personal lives and judges each other solely on the basis of applicable merits. We are people and we are not hyphenated statistics or sub nationalities. We should not be judged as "the first lesbian on the moon" or "the first gay general" we should only be judged for out merits and accepted simply as being fellow humans in the adventure and journey of life. Keep your religion and categorization out of our lives, our beds, and our hearts and then everyone will be happy.

XOXOXOXOXOXOXO :kiss:

Much Love :heart:

Mlle Audrey
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I agree about Polygyny. If you and your husband want to add a third, why not? It's not as if old testament folks didn't practice Polygyny. Abraham certainly did. Henry Miller and his wife June had a threesome with Anais Nin as you must know.

Polyandry is exceedingly rare. I recall a society in Tibet from my studies of kinship and marriage practices while getting my Cultural Anthropology degree back in the 1970's. I imagine the amazingly prudish Communist Chinese have suppressed it. This is an example from India: [link]